Winter Cuddle-up

The Winter Chocolate Cuddle-up... 

Man, it is hard to be single in winter. All the while you are hearing tales of winter dinner's with the hubby or rainy weather cuddles with her man on the couch, and you are sitting there rolling your eyes like a teenager while thinking:

"Well I cuddled up to a Lindt death by chocolate cake last night? But that doesn't count, does it? Ah well, you should have been there, it was earth shattering stuff! I ate it all in one sitting...no guilt here! Only a couple of extra kg's..Oh darn, I'm going to be single forever!"

Yep, it sucks to be single in winter...or does it?

I recently turned twenty-five and since then it seems all my peers have started making plans to get married or have kids. The incessant questions of my love-life have begun to haunt me at every family gathering and has left me feeling quite dreary at times, especially since it seems to be the season of my life when people are starting to "settling down". Even so, it has been nine months that I have been a "single lady" and it's been tough at times but mostly phenomenally rewarding...and as one of those girls who was always either getting into a relationship or getting out of one I am proud of how far I've come.

I am happy to say that since I have allowed myself some freedom from the male gender, I know much more about who I am than I ever did before. Yes, this includes the fact that winter in addition to no man, for me, equals too much chocolate and nights when George Micheal's version of "I can't make you love me" is played on repeat! Long warm baths with a great magazine are a staple for my good health and there is nothing that goes down quite as well as a nice glass of red wine when I'm stressed.

Dinner for one is really not that bad when you are content within yourself, but hey, that does not mean I wouldn't mind date every now and then to keep my heart from freezing along with my toes!

Until then... Well, I guess I'll have to hit the gym as often as possible to combat this wild chocolate addiction!

Sweetly Single

Just Janel.

That moment when you realise, you really should not be eating this!!! 

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Love always

Jay

Dream Catcher

It's easy for people to kill your dream. Whether it be owning your own business, becoming a medical doctor or, like me, becoming an opera singer. I remember days passed when people would tell me that anything is possible with hard work and that dreams were in the palm of your hand. But as you grow up, too often other people's failure's cloud their judgement. Thus, the words of encouragement become: "It's hard, not everyone can make it" or "This is a cut-throat industry and I don't know if you'll cut it" and "I see you doing better at this and that "(which happens to be something completely different to what you want to do and have spent years working to accomplish). Yes, it's easy for others to step on your dream and it is easier still for you to give in.

I've come to realise that "giving in" is not always merely choosing another career path and allowing the bitterness of unaccomplished goals to haunt you, no it's worse than that... Giving in sometimes takes the form of being lost a midst others success. You forget what drives you and how your dreams used to give you joy,  and thus you merely exist. You exist on the outside of your own life, subconsciously accepting your fate which is everything "they" have been telling you...you forget that this, this too, is a choice. 

As these negative words become stronger and they try to discourage- hold strong. For when the words become louder, the dream is closer at hand. Live for your passion, and if you fail, at least your dream will help you up and lead the way. Sometimes the people you admire most do not see your true potential...you must show them. For only you truly know your capability. 

So with the words uttered to us when we were still young, raw and hopeful, I say too you:

"You have strength beyond your own understanding.

You will achieve your every goal and become all you have hoped for. 

Through your hard word and commitment, you will be rewarded. 

I speak these words into your future with fervor and true belief.

You will move mountains."  

Just Janel